We need your help! Our story!
My name is Elizabeth. I am the 34 year old single mom of three wonderful children. Anton is 7 and great in school. Kaden is 4 and very rambunctious. And Sumera is 8 months old and amazes me every single day.
This is very hard for me. I have always found a way to make it but now I need help. I need help to pay my rent, to protect my children, and move on. At this time without your help my only way to get help is to go live at a shelter with my kids until they can get me into housing in 6 -10 weeks or so.
PLEASE help do not let this happen.
If you are willing to make a large donation to help me get back on my feet for a while I can provide my protection order as proof of what I am saying. If you can send a dollar or whatever it would be so greatly appreciated.
I am writing this for me and so that you can understand. Please do not judge me. I want people to understand that this goes on all the time behind closed doors and there is no help out there.
I want you to know our story but I’m not sure where to start but here goes….
In August 2005 I meet a man and his daughter at a park. I was in an alcoholic relationship and more than ready to leave so the boys Dad abd I split up the man I meet at the Park, Bill, and his daughter Kylee moved into a my house.
Everything was great for a while. I worked on the internet selling stuff and he had a job as well. About a month later he lost his job….things started to get bad. He was demanding money, yelling, screaming…… then he got pulled over by the police. I bought his story that the drugs were not his and bailed him out.
Things at home had gotten worse but I was pregnant so I tried to deal with it. On December 2, 2005 Bill got up screaming and yelling. Things got out of hand. I called his Mom and begged her to come and get him. She would not. Things just got worse he was pushing and threatening to kill me if I did not give him $20 and let him take my car. I tried to grab the phone and he pushed me down. I told the boys to get their shoes on and we left. I was arrested down the road while getting gas and I went to jail for domestic violence. When I left my house he slammed himself into the wall and called the cops and said that I hit him. The cops did not want to hear my side they just arrested me in front of my sons. I was released from jail the next day but had no where to go except a shelter. You see, when you call the cops the person who calls the cops automatically gets the house until you go to court.
20 days later all the charges were dropped and I got my house back but for 20 days my kids had to stay a shelter. We were granted mutual restraining orders for 6 months.
I spent my pregnancy with myself and the boys. (My family is 200 miles away.) My sister was there for my c-section. Everything was fine. Then…I called him to tell him about his daughter. He met her. And yes…. He won me back over. He said that he was ob drugs then and was going to rehab, and, yes, he was. He was in the amends program to help those who have a problem with domestic violence. And, yes, you guessed it, I bought it and moved him back into my home.
Once again, all was fine at first… He was attending rebab, AA, and his amends classes.
That lasted until he couldn’t keep a job, then he was screaming and yelling and telling me how hard it was to stay clean and be a dad and everything. He had even started abusing Kylee, his daughter. He slapped her in the face and busted her nose, he almost broke her toe….
What was I to do… He got a job but it was only enough to pay his fines and gas for his classes. But something changed because he had a job and his counselors were telling him that he was doing so good he was getting arrogant and meaner. He wasn’t attending his AA classes anymore. He was forging the signatures for his program. He was threatening to kill me and put Kylee away if we ever told on him. He was bragging because he was doing Somas and they didn’t show up on his drug test.
The… he got pulled over in my car. When I got the car I was ecstatic. Yeah, now he was violating his probation and he would be gone. No, they called me to come and get him. I had top but I had to find a way out… but how??? What about Kylee???? He had threatened to try to take Sumera and he promised that he would find a way to take my kids away or me away from my kids.
Life went on, screaming and yelling everyday. I had to quit making any extra money because Kaden, my son, did not want to be around Bill. Kylee would cry when we went to get him. We begged him to leave and leave us alone. He promised that she would never be with her mom and he would take my kids away or put me away somehow. I told him that I could not give him my child support (for the boys) to pay his fines, Because I told him that I had lost my card. He was crazy screaming yelling, pushing me down.
On March 10, he got up out of bed screaming and yelling at everyone and a big fight started. He grabbed Sumera out of my arms and ran to the back bathroom with her. We all chased him and begged him to let her go. He was screaming and yelling about how he could take her at any time and I would never see her again. He was hitting at me at the same time and swinging her around. We were all crying, except for him… He was threatening to call the police and me and have me taken away just like last time, he would smirk.
We all got into the car because, would you believe it he had to go to his last amends meeting or he would be violating his court order. So, I took him and he graduated, it like to HAVE MADE ME SICK. THIS MAN COULD BULLSHIT ANYONE AND THEM BELIEVE HIM.
Then, I took him to work I wanted to run but What would I do with Kylee. I called the shelter; I had a plan for the next day. I went to get him like everything was fine but it wasn’t he was yelling all the way home about needing money……
We got home; I put the kids to bed…. I was not prepared for what happened next.
He was screaming and yelling in the kitchen, he pushed me into the wall…then turned around and pulled the phone out of the wall and told me to go to the bedroom. He came into the bedroom with a knife. He pushed me down on my bed, he held the knife to my throat and said I will kill you if you tell anyone bitch and moved the knife on my throat that I could feel it but not enough to cut badly. He then told me to get up on the bed and I did. (My daughter, 7 month old, sleeps in her bed beside us) . He ripped my skirt and my hands above my head and raped me…….right beside our daughter…..when it was over he put his leg across me and told me to go to sleep.
I had to sleep there all night worrying about what to do the next day.
At 7am I got up with the kids and got 2 of them off to school. Then… I went back to the house and told him that he had to get up and go to work early because I had to go get money to pay my rent. He bought it and went to work. I dropped him off and drove straight down the hill and called the Abuse and rape Crisis Shelter. With them we made a plan to get protection orders and keep Kylee safe and get her with her mom without him knowing it and then go to the police. We did such but I had to lie to him everytime he called me. After getting the kids safe I went to the police station and then to the hospital for the rape kit.
THEY ARRESTED him that night at work. He has been indicted. He is in jail with a $250,000 bond.
But, now, I need help. Because of all this I have lost my regular income and need some help. I do not want to have to go to the shelter with my kids. I want so desperately to be able to move and start a new life with my kids without becoming homeless to qualify.
I am amazed that there is no help out there, or atleast none that I can find. Most women stay with men who abuse them because of the finances, why is there no help????
Someone Please help me to start a new life. A SAFE life with me and my family.
Thanks for listening……please, please HELP IF YOU CAN OR IF YOU KNOW ANYONE WHO COULD HELP!
